The Simplicity of Men: Category Three

Posted By: Monica and Kelly

To take a ballpark estimate of this category, I would guess that roughly 60-70% of men in America are Three's. I would figure that the percentages would fluctuate in different parts of the world because of the different social practices and overall outlook on life. Now, what makes up the largest group of men in our country?

The Majority who only know what their mommas taught them and are fully aware of that: Got Game? You belong in Categories 1 and 2. No Game? You’re stuck here. This is not necessary a bad thing. Sure, this category does entail all the nerdy, geeky, sensitive outcasts who have zero confidence to their name. Yet, you have to understand that those are extremes in society because how many true nerds or geeks do you actually know? I’m guessing not that many. Yet at least 50 percent (if not more) of the guys you have encountered in your life time fit perfectly into this denomination. Why is this, you ask? Well, the answer is quite simple. In this world, every guy has only one of two things: either he has confidence, or he has something called the “truth factor”. There is no gray area, either you have one or you have the other.

The Truth Factor Explained: I'm sure many of you are completely lost by now in reference to the truth factor. That is why examples are my friends. Here's one that will help you grasp the diversity of this group. Below is a list of guys from my school (all of whom are Category Three), and a little something about each of them. (Disclaimer: The names have been changed due to the anonymous nature of this blog.)

Derek: A high school football player, he's popular with both kids and teachers. Derek is one of those guys who can walk into a room and befriend every person there. He is humorous, charismatic, and an overall great person to be around. He also has a girlfriend of two years. She's the type of girl that fits perfectly with a guy like him; pretty, smiley, and able to handle his crazy personality.

Jack: This is the smartest guy I know. This boy's mind is always overflowing with history as he spews facts about World War Two and Glass parking lots. He's the teachers' "go to" person and never fails to help someone brush up on his or her facts on the Cold War. Yet, Jack is not an introvert. Far from it, actually. He is friends with Derek, as well as some of the most popular girls in school and is one of mine as well.

Aiden : Aiden is that typical nice guy that always keeps his cool. He is a "preacher's boy", son of a pastor who plays guitar in his church band. This is also the guy that many girls had a crush on before he got his current girlfriend. Some, even after.

Drake: This is the kid that always argues the losing point. He's the guy that picks to represent the opposite side of the debate just so a discussion may take place. He's also the guy that knows everybody in school. How he does it, I do not know.

Steve: Steve is the guy that is friends with many girls, but never shows any interest. Yes, he is straight. Completely and undeniably. But he is also that guy that isn't at that level of wanting to be attached to anybody yet. He likes life the way it is: drenched in singleness.

Three out of the five are in serious relationships. What do all these guys have in common? The Truth Factor. It sounds like it’s as simple as “being yourself” and I guess, in a way, it is. Category Three guys can’t fake confidence because when they try to, they end up as lowly Category Two’s (I’m talking Dante’s 9th Circle of Hell level Two). Not that Category Two is a bad category in general because as we said before, there are good and bad in each, but guys with no game should never pretend they have it when they don’t. Girls see through it and are not impressed. This is the mistake so many guys make in middle school and high school. It is far better for them to be genuine around girls, and not put on a front of bravado. Leave that to the guys who know how to work it to their advantage.

Girls do not fall for Category Three guys for their confidence and suave personalities. They fall for their "realness", their relatability, their flawed yet normal selves. A good chunk of the women in the world are not even attracted to the Category Twos because they do not like the feeling of being "played". Have you ever wondered why, in movies as well as in real life, in some cases the guy gets the girl that seems to be well above his level? How does the nerd win over the affections of the model? They do it through the Truth Factor, which is having the inner confidence to be yourself while also taking a heaping piece of humble pie.

Well, they are humble when it comes to girls, knowing that men and women are equal and therefore, tricks will not work in their favor. Not to say that they are humble in general, because for most of them, this is not the case. Yet, none of them would walk up to a "hot" girl at a party and hit on her. That just would not happen. Most girls end up with Category Three guys, and find what they’ve always been looking for- someone real whose funny quirks will entertain them and who will always be doggedly loyal (to the point of clingy-ness) to them. Girls can overlook looks, so to speak, more often than guys can. Girls look for personality more than they look for appearance and can be initially attracted to someone for who they are and not what they look like. Guys, on the other hand, almost always notice a girl based off of her looks, and then get to know her personality. This is why the jock does not fall for the girl with glasses and a backpack full of biology textbooks nearly as often. Which is a shame, because nerds can be some of the best girlfriends and boyfriends out there. The best explanation I found comes from John Green, the king of nerds and author of some awesome books. The explanation is at 0:43 to 1:42.



Category Three guys in movies and television shows are the best friends who always get the girl at the end (My favorite Category Three guy, Duckie from Pretty in Pink, is the lone standout who didn’t get the girl but I guess it’s a sad reality that there is such a thing as unrequited love, the least often told love story there is ).



Another classic example of a Category Three are all the men who seek out the Date Doctor to help them win over the affections of the one they love. In the end of this movie, Alex Hitchens realizes that what helped his main client to get the girl was not his great advice, but the client's overwhelming Category Three personality.