Just Friends?

By: Monica

This one's for the guys.

I'm sure every single one of you has been hung up on a girl one time or another and has tried every concievable way to "win her over". Well, tough luck. Women do not work that way. In reality, females decide whether there is a chance for the guy within the first three minutes of meeting him (Actually, the time slot is narrower than this, but all women are different so for the sake of an average, it shall be three minutes). Unfortunately for guys, sometimes the female is unaware of this herself. This is when she is able to waste your time. The fact of the matter is, sometimes girls just want a boyfriend. Not every girl, mind you. Yet some make an extremely bad habit out of it.

Look at it this way. You can't have the cold without having the nasal congestion, or the sore throat, or the droopy eyes. They go hand in hand. Same goes in this situation. You can't have the need for a boyfriend without clinging to the one you have or suffocating the one you want to be with. My point? That is the first sign of a girl who doesn't know what she wants. Her interest level is below 50%. She wants to be with you for the sake of being with you, not for the person you are. How is she able to do this, though? Why did she pick you and not some other random guy that could deal with her addiction? Frankly, it is due to one of two things. Either you asked and she, grasping the opportunity, complied, or you made your self too available and therefore made it too easy for her. A girl likes to feel as if she's in uneasy waters at the beginning of a relationship. She doesn't want a guy tripping over her feet. If she really needs a loyal servant following her around, there's always an animal shelter somewhere around the corner.

Any more signs? You ask. Oh yes, plenty. Other women are more forward with their decisions. If she ever drops hints of just wanting to be friends, or says that you should take a break and date other people, or even tries to convince you and make it look like your idea that you two are anything less than "in a relationship", it ain't gonna happen. EVER. Unless you want to waste your life away, convincing yourself that one day she will come to her senses and fall for you, it is time to move on.

Lesson of the day: If you show interest and she declines, don't try to convince her otherwise. I must quote Doc Love on this one: "Never try to keep someone who doesn't want to keep you."