Categorical Couples

By: Kelly

1 and 1- horrible match. The entire relationship is based on context and the passion, while the strongest of any relationship combination, is based completely on a lie. Hugely obsessive relationships like this have a tiny chance of lasting long term, unless they adapt. More on this once we get to 1-3's.

2 and 2- bad match. This relationship will suck because obviously neither person will really care. There is no passion. This is borderline friends with benefits, or the types of people who marry for financial reasons only. However, due to the consistency and drama-less state of this relationship, it actually has okay odds of lasting.

3 and 3- excellent match. The relationship is a great balance because both parties are wary of context and as a result they will be more consistent than a couple with 1's but will still have passion unlike 2's because they care more than anyone else. They will play the game with each other but it will not be a drama-filled relationship because they will both be too cautious/in control to make rash mistakes frequently in a fit of emotion like 1's are prone to do. Lack of communication is a 3-3's biggest trip up. They run the risk of misinterpreting a situation, but due to their pride, they keep it to themselves or pretend it doesn't bother them. As long as they can avoid this road block, a 3-3 has the best odds at lasting.

1 and 2- horrible match. 2's will not work with anyone else besides a 2, and even then it is a hollow shell of a relationship. Obviously a relationship cannot be truly successful if one of both of its members doesn't care enough about the other person. In this case, it will be especially one-sided and horrible because one person will be completely starry-eyed and will view the other person as a god, while the 2 won't give a crap at all. Abusive relationships are generally 1-2's or 2-2's. The extremes are such polar opposites that a 1-2 has almost zero odds of lasting.

2 and 3- bad match. Again, because there is a 2 it can't really ever work and will be one-sided. This kind of relationship would be very rare because of a 3's nature. A 3 is known for being perceptive and cautious and therefore wouldn't get in a relationship with someone who didn't care enough about them. However, we're all human so it's possible for a 3 to make a mistake and end up with a 2, although I'm pretty sure it wouldn't take long for a 3 to catch on and end the relationship, which is why it too has almost zero odds of lasting.

1 and 3- good match. This is probably the most common type of relationship actually. Because statistically, I would be willing to bet 1's are the most common category out there. This just makes logical sense because on the spectrum of caring, they fall in the middle with 2's caring less and 3's caring more. And when it comes to perceptiveness and observation, they also fall in the middle because 2's don't care enough to pay attention and 3's are masters at it. So you might think 1-1's are the most common but they actually aren't. They are the way most relationships BEGIN but most evolve into one of the other combinations. This is because once in a relationship, context gradually slips away and the only way to survive is to adapt. So some 1-1's become 1-3's, as one person takes on the role of the "responsible" one who keeps the relationship grounded and acts as watchdog for any signs of trouble, allowing their partner to be the "emotional" one. Some 1-1's become 1-2's, if one person doesn't deem the relationship worthy of taking on that "responsible" role, at which time they become a 2. It's also possible for a 1-1 to become a 2-2, if the couple stops caring simultaneously, although I'm somewhat skeptical about how possible this is. Anyway, 1-3's have a pretty good chance of lasting, although there will be a lot of strain on the person doing all the heavy lifting (the 3).